If you’re wondering how you’re going to ask your bridesmaids to be in your wedding, you’ve come to the right place. No longer will a phone call or coffee date do the trick. You want them to feel special and valued, because they are the ones you’re choosing to stand by your side while you’re making the most significant commitment of your entire life.
So, how will you do it? Choose a personalized bridesmaid invitation — a simple but thoughtful way to ask your friends and/or family members to be a part of your big day.
Let us help you make this moment special with this guide on how to choose the right invitation, wording and even when to give your bridesmaid their invite. When you’re done, you’re going to have unique and heartfelt personalized bridesmaid invitations!
If you haven’t already, it’s time to choose your bridesmaids. Don’t worry about the number when you begin. Make a list of all the people who have been with you through it all, along with those who came along later in life. There’s no rule that you have to have ALL the relatives in your wedding, either, as that you and your spouse should be the main event.
Some unwarranted advice: ask only those who are supportive of your marriage to be in your party. You don’t need the stress of other people’s negatively when planning for your wedding.
Don’t Overthink It
Asking your bridesmaids to be in your wedding does not have to be complicated, but you can make it memorable. Once you’ve decided who will be standing by your side at your wedding, it’s time to choose the invitation you’ll be sharing. Once you’ve decided, don’t go back and overthink it. Stick to your guns and ask your girls!
Choose an Invitation
Here’s the fun part. Choosing an invitation for your bridesmaids can be just as fun as picking your wedding invitations. You may even want the invites to match your wedding theme or your wedding shower.
Have fun and find one that you think defines each of your bridesmaids individually, or you can start a theme that will carry you through your bridal shower and on to your bachelorette party. The options are endless! A note: most any invitation can be used as a bridesmaid card; it’s as simple as changing the wording.
You Don’t Have to be a Wordsmith
Some people (if not every person) has difficulty writing a memento in a card. Don’t worry! You can be as bright of a wordsmith or as pragmatic as you like. In case you’re interested in some quirky ways to ask your girls, we’ve compiled a list here.
- “I Can’t Say ‘I Do’ Without You”
- “You helped me with all the frogs, so now help me tie down the prince!”
- “Too disorganized to plan my wedding alone — Will you be my bridesmaid?”
- “It would be such an honor if you would be a part of the happiest day of our lives!”
- Finally, simply “Will you be my bridesmaid?”
Don’t overcomplicate this; just have fun with this part! You find the way that works best for you.
Still Having Trouble? Buy a Pre-Written One!
If you can’t decide or don’t have the time to do so, buy pre-written bridesmaid invitations! There’s no shame in doing so, either. Once you receive the invitations, you could then add your own personal touches to them and make them your own!
Above all, be personal. You know the women in your party better than anyone else. You can always put your own spin on each card to include personalized “inside jokes” or sentimental moments. Take this time to start thanking your bridal party, because we all know how much they’ll be doing to help you on your wedding day!
Maid of Honor
Speaking of personal, if you’ve decided to choose a maid of honor, make sure her invitation is unique from the others. Whether you choose a different invitation or change bridesmaid to “maid of honor,” you’ll want her to be set apart. Your maid of honor is your right-hand woman; help her feel honored in receiving that title.
Asking someone to be in your wedding means so much more than just putting on a dress and holding a bouquet of flowers. They’ll be the ones helping you plan, prep and ensure the day goes just as planned. From late night DIY centerpiece decorations (at the last minute) to planning your bachelorette party, you want to help them feel special and appreciated long before they help you cross things off your wedding planning checklist.
So, get out there and start shopping around for your personalized bridesmaid invitation and remember to have fun amidst the chaos that is wedding planning (if you can!).