- Taking small mistakes seriously. Yes, it will be annoying when someone close to you forgets something that you think is really, really important (but small) for the ceremony, but we urge you to let minor faux-pas go. As far as small mistakes go, they will not ruin the overall beauty of the wedding ceremony. So, after silently cursing a décor detail that is off, throw it to the wind and enjoy this day, because nobody is going to know that the flower you wanted, for example, was supposed to be another closely-related shade of blue.
- Creating a registry before you’ve given yourself a moment to consider the options. You’ll want your registry to represent you as a couple, so rather than creating a registry too quickly, take your time to find a place that matches the style that you’d like the foundation of your home to exist on. Let the place you work with share your sense of style, and then set up a registry. This will eliminate the headache of feeling like you’d like to try again because the registry you created didn’t really reflect you.
- Signing a contract without every detail. Because the wedding planning process can be a lengthy process, there is no guarantee that the person that you worked with to answer your detailed questions to create the perfect catering menu will still be working at the same place by the time of your wedding. Nail down every single detail, and then get it in writing. Details include information on wait staff and bartenders, support staff, the alcohol selection, and additional charges. When you have this information in writing, it won’t matter who is working at the space by the time of your wedding—the contract will just have to be honored.
- Giving too many people time to speak. Things can get teary-eyed really fast, but we’re going to need to keep the toasts to a minimum. That honor should go to the host, maid of honor, best man, and whomever else you choose. Just make sure that it’s a select group of people, and you’ve accounted for all of them to have longer than average speeches if they begin to think about when they knew you in diapers—that memory can get to anyone, really. Also, speak with the DJ to make sure they’re also aware of the guests you’ve chosen to have that honor. Otherwise you run the risk of boring the guests who have to listen and watch the beautiful, beautiful tears.
- Forgetting how important stationery actually is. There’s a timeless quality that stationery carries, especially stationery with calligraphic fonts. Don’t underestimate the ability of the paper that you send out to people for invitations and save-the-dates to really set the mood of your wedding. Instead of just keeping it good enough, consider putting care into the selection of the font, design, and words. It will make a difference, and it might end up being one of the many keepsakes people hold on to for your wedding. Every detail counts, such as whether you select the serif or sans serif font.
- Trying to make everyone happy. Everyone wants everyone to like them, but it’s just not going to happen. Suggestions can be nice until it begins to feel like additional input isn’t really needed, no offense. Remember that it’s your wedding, and you can do whatever you want, and do things however you like. Just make sure the bases are covered, as far as food, temperature, guest seating, etc. For everything else, your input is ultimately all that matters.
- Assuming that a percentage, generally 10%, won’t attend. This is a cute fallacy, because really, who’s to say that this percentage won’t be more or less? Reserve a venue for the number of people you’ve invited, not the number of people you’re anticipating attending. What this means is that you should invite only those people you want to attend, because the budget that you’ve created or plan on creating will have to account for everyone, even people that you feel like you have to invite but really might not want to. Be fair to yourself, and your wedding; and invite those who deserve to be there. It’s the closest way to keep count, although there’s no real fool-proof method of predicting how many people will or won’t attend your wedding.
- Letting tradition be the only thing that matters. Traditions are great mementos passed down from generation to generation, but so are free will and individuality. Don’t be afraid to be yourself and add a bit of personal flair to the wedding. Let it speak to who you are, and, if you are ever the traditionalist, make sure that it is still in line with the style and attitude that you want your wedding to portray.
We hope we haven’t frightened you with all of the mistakes that could be made during the planning of the wedding ceremony. However, it’s more of a pre-cursor to a wedding planning list—these items should instead steer you in the right direction so that you plan well.
In the meantime, as you’re considering these important tips, why don’t you take a look at the many options that we have for save-the-date cards so that when you’re ready you’ll have a few options that you’re already considering.
For more on wedding mistakes you don’t want to make, check out this article here.