So Many Themes But Only One Party – How to Decide on a Wedding Theme that is Perfect for You

Chances are if you are planning your wedding you have been asked at least once about your theme.  Vendors want to know, your consultant wants to know, pretty much everyone wants to know.  So what is a wedding theme?  Well the theme of the wedding is ways that the bride and groom added their own personal touch.  A theme can be as simple as a color scheme or as elaborate as planning the entire day’s events around a fairy tale or a sport’s team.  It is okay to be traditional and believe that your wedding is a theme in itself. It is also okay to go crazy and fully immerse your day in a theme.  Chances are you will still need to choose a color scheme and favors.

As soon as you started planning, you probably realized there are countless choices for colors and themes and just about everything else.  It can really seem overwhelming.  The best way to start is to figure out what you definitely want before you worry about all the little details.  Do you want a certain color for the bridesmaid dresses?  Do you absolutely want candles as centerpieces?  Make a list of all the things you definitely want to help you fill in the blanks.  This will help you choose complimentary options for everything else.

Next sit down together to figure out what each of you do and do not like.  Sometimes what you don’t like is even more important then what you do.  Make sure you are both on the same page about things you each think must be included in your special day and the things that each of you may be totally against.

You want to put in writing the answers to basic questions about yourself.  This can help determine what direction you want to go with the planning and also can open discussions and help you both brainstorm ideas.

Some questions you may want to ask and answer include:

1. What are your interests and hobbies?  You may both love sports or both be avid campers.  Inspiration drawn from a mutual hobby can be a great idea for a theme.

2. What are your favorite foods? What is your favorite restaurant? Do you both love Indian?  Is your favorite restaurant that cute little Italian place downtown?  Discussing your food tastes and the atmosphere of both of your favorite restaurants can help you decide the atmosphere for your wedding.  The same can go for favorite drinks, areas you frequent or even desserts.

3. What are your favorite flowers?  What is a favorite color of each of you?  Does one of you love stripes or polka dots?  What are your favorite textures?  Do you each prefer silks or satins? Deciding on the feels and colors you each prefer can be a great guideline for making choices during the planning.

4. What is your favorite place in the world?  Where would you most like to visit and why?

5. Do you prefer a cityscape or a country field?

6. What are your favorite books?  What are your favorite TV shows and movies?

7. What is your favorite season? Do you prefer sunrises, sunsets or high afternoon sun?

8. What is your favorite kind of music?

Remember that if you are going the route of full immersion with your wedding theme you cannot require guests to dress according to theme.  Your bridal party and groomsmen should be okay with dressing the theme but be sure to have a few alternatives if anyone is uncomfortable with your first choice.  Other guests at your wedding can be encouraged to participate in the theme of the day but you should be an understanding and gracious host if they choose not to do so.

Some of these questions may seem completely off topic but you would be surprised the insight the answers will provide when it comes time to choose specific wedding elements.  Making a list of your own using these questions and others could be very helpful.  Be sure that as you discuss your likes you also dislike anything you don’t like.  Don’t just say how you love lilies say how you hate daisies or whatever the case may be.  Writing a succinct version of the questions and answers down for your wedding planner is a great idea if you will be using one.  A simple internet search of wedding themes can also yield great ideas but doing this exercise first can help steer you in the right direction.