Wedding Stationery Etiquette

This will help you along the way with basic stationery guidelines for wedding announcements.


Announce your wedding:

Send out Save-the-Date cards. These cards provide you with the perfect way to let your friends and family know about your upcoming wedding. 

Anticipation Save The Date Cards: Your guests will know to anticipate something special when they receive one of these elegant Save the Dates.

Base on one of the more popular invitations, Initial Save the Date cards feature the groom’s last name initial in an elegant script along with your information.

Love Birds Save the Date cards are trendy little birds that sit side by side with you and your fiancé’s first name initial.

Send your wedding announcements in a fun way and keep it simple and sweet with See Dick and Jane Save the Date cards.

Save time! As you print your return address on your invitations and response cards, print it on the flaps of your thank you note envelopes and the envelopes of all stationery you wish to use. Always address envelopes with black or dark blue ink.

Do not list stores where you are registered on your announcements or invitations. For truly stylish stationery experts, including the stores on your registry leaves a sour taste on your otherwise sweet social stationery. Instead, allow your friends to ask where you are registered on an individual basis.

As a general rule, if you do not specifically request that guests do not bring gifts it insinuates that all gifts will be welcome. It is acceptable, however, wedding websites are getting more popular these days, it is also alright to decline gifts on an invitation or announcement using a delicate phrase printed at the bottom of your card in discreet print.


No gifts please
May your good wishes be your only gift to us.
May the presence of your company be your only gift to us.


If you think this is simple, think again. Before setting for the task, make sure that you will not encounter any surprises at the wedding.

Yes, compiling the guest list and staying within your wedding budget is one of the most difficult tasks at hand. Yet, your wedding is the happiest day of your life and you want your guest to share in your happiness rather than harbor bad feelings.

Each invitation should be either hand addressed, or if computer generated, have special calligraphy like fonts. Be very specific when addressing the invitations. The recipients should know exactly who is invited and if anyone is not.
Take into consideration guests’ children. Be sure not to alienate singles for whom it is important to bring a significant other or a guest.

Show your guests that they are important to you. Pay attention to details and your guests will know that you really care about them.

In general, avoid abbreviations. Always spell out commonly abbreviated words, such as street, boulevard or avenue, months and days of the week. Also, be sure to spell out all contractions (e.g., “do not” instead of “don’t”). You definitely don’t want friends or family to think that you were in a rush, or that you sent hastily written announcements or invitations.

Write all house numbers in numeral form (1, 2, 3…). The number “one,” is the only exception, spell it out when it stands alone.

Write apartment numbers, suite numbers and zip codes in numeral form.

Avoid state abbreviations.

Do not abbreviate common address words like “Street,” “Boulevard” and “Avenue.”

Each type of guest is addressed differently. Though I attempt to address every situation, you may find that you have a guest with other addressing needs. Use your common sense and you’ll do just fine.

Do not use initials instead of full names though you may insert an initial for the middle name. Do not address using nicknames unless the invitee is a close friend, a family member. Do not abbreviate addresses or titles.

You may address family members by their relations to you; Uncle, Aunt, etc.

Married couples without childrenMr. and Mrs. (Husband’s first and last name)

Married couples with children: Mr. and Mrs. (Husband’s first and last name) and family or children’s names.

Married couples with children over 18 years old: Mr. and Mrs. (Husband’s first and last name) and a separate invitation for each child over 18.

Married couples where the husband has a professional title:

        Doctor: Doctor and Mrs. (Husband’s first and last name), if children are invited, and family.

        Judge: The honorable (Husband’s first and last name) and Mrs. (family name) if children are invited, and family.

        Professor: Professor and Mrs. (Husband’s first and last name).

Married couples where the wife has a professional title: 

        Doctor: Doctor (wife’s full name) and Mr. (Husband’s first and last name).

Married couples where both have professional titles:  Husband’s title followed by his first and last name and wife’s title followed her first and last name and if children are invited, add and family.

Unmarried couples who live together: Miss, ms (full name) and Mr. (full name) 
Single man: Mr. (full name) – and guest
Single woman: Miss or Ms. (full name) if applicable add – and guest. 

Single woman – divorced: Mrs. or Ms. (full name), If applicable add – and guest.

Single woman – widow: Either Mrs. (her full name) or Mrs. (deceased husband’s full name

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