The Wedding No’s

Wedding season is here and chances are that; a) you have at least one invitation on your kitchen counter or b) you’re getting ready for your big day. If you fit into the latter category – what are you doing reading this? You need to be hustling, you are way behind…

Now, we would all like to think our weddings were perfect (me included), but as anyone who has ever been a guest at a wedding or in a wedding knows, it’s just not possible. Everyone wants their wedding a certain way but you don’t have to torture your guests in the process. With a little common sense and a calm head everyone can have a great time.

RSVP – In the invitation there will almost always be an addressed stamped envelope with an RSVP card that just requires you to check off yes or no. Fill it out and send it back before the deadline.

Cecilia Wedding Invitations These invitations are traditionally styled and feature an elegant emblem at the top personalized with your first name initials. Available as a single panel invitation or you can add a backer for the layered look. Choose from a wide array of paper colors to reflect your own personal style.

Cecilia 2-Layer Wedding Invitations These invitations are traditionally styled and feature an elegant emblem at the top personalized with your first name initials. Available as a single panel invitation or you can add a backer for the layered look. Choose from a wide array of paper colors to reflect your own personal style.

Take your guests into consideration — yes, Friday night weddings are a great way to save money, but not if you have out-of-town guests who will have to take a day off from work in order to attend.

Don’t bring an uninvited guest – Check the invitation envelope. If it’s addressed to you and guest and you responded that two people would be attending, then it’s ok to bring someone. If the envelope is addressed to you alone, don’t bring the guy or gal that you met in the hotel bar the night before.

Bridesmaids and Groomsmen: it’s a wedding, not a frat party. Your job isn’t to break the keg stand record from your college party days.  This goes for you bridesmaids as well, remember you’re wearing a dress. It’s great to drink, especially when the alcohol is free, but you’re not the center of attention this day. Now I am not saying that you shouldn’t have a good time. Believe me when I say that I’ve had my fair share of wedding cocktails. Make sure your Bride and Groom are the one’s partying it up. Save the crazy for later.

Dress appropriately – Casual is fine for a casual wedding, but if the invitation says semiformal then torn jeans and a t-shirt won’t cut it.

Be careful what you say at your table – Sometimes you don’t know who you’re sitting next to. It could turn out to be the groom’s devoutly religious cousin and he may not be amused by all those randy tales you’re telling.

Check and re-check your seating chart – If you just have to invite your mother’s grumpy old friend then don’t seat her next to your college buddies. They really don’t want to hear about her digestive troubles.

Venetian Romance Seating Cards Our Venetian Romance seating cards will add elegance to your reception tables. They’re personalized with your first names, wedding date, a blank line for you to write in the name of the guest and a place to put the table number.

Victoria Damask Table Cards These Victoria Damask table number cards are a great way to direct your guests to their table. Personalized with the bride and groom’s first names and wedding date with table numbers 1-10. Stands not included.

If you invite someone to your shower, invite them to your wedding – If your guest is good enough to help chip in for a fun-filled honeymoon, then they are darn well good enough to make the wedding list.

Don’t have a super long break between the ceremony and the reception – Waiting several hours for a cocktail and a bacon wrapped scallop doesn’t make for a festive start to the evening. Driving a long distance from the church to the reception hall puts a damper on things too.

Go to the wedding service as well as the reception – I’ve noticed this at more weddings than I thought I would. I get it if you have a time conflict, but if you don’t want to sit through the service then don’t go at all.

Don’t take the centerpiece unless you ask for it or win it in one of those wedding games – This happened at two of my tables and those hurricane lamps ended up costing a heck of a lot more than they ever should have.

Remember, newly Mr. and Mrs., to thank your guests for attending. Both of you should say something heartfelt and thankful. It can be hard to remember with everything going on. Both of you should stand up and endure the awkward moment of being thankful and grateful to everyone in the room.

Food – Have some…even if all you are doing is a champagne toast, but be careful not to overdue it. Not having a vegetarian entree option or enough vegetarian items at a buffet. Even if you think that everyone will be fine with the options you have, you should have a veggie option in case someone turns out to be a vegetarian.

Make sure there are ample restroom facilities.

Don’t wait until the end of the night to cut the cake – Some of your guests may not want to dance the night away, but they really want a piece of that goodness. Get all your formalities out of the way at the beginning of the reception so your guests don’t feel bad leaving early.

Toasting Flutes in Vase & Cake Serving Set With its matchless design and unmistakable appearance, this flute and serving set will give you one more reason to “toast” your love! The delicate flutes, which reside in a tapered, crystal vase, feature frosted stems. The elegant silver-plated serving set has an intricate engraved design. When the pieces are paired, they create an irrefutable display of vintage charm. Both the flutes and the cake knife may be engraved with your first names and wedding date.

Be kind to your bridesmaids – That dress with full gathering around the waist, a huge bow on the butt and sleeves that puffed out like the shoulder pads on an all pro linebacker does no one any favors. Expecting the bridesmaids to make tons of sacrifices or spend a lot of money and then constantly harping on them is not a good thing either.

Careful with your theme wedding – Theme weddings are great fun, but don’t overdue it! Some of your guests may not want to be required to give their wedding video toast wearing a furry animal suit. Drink tickets, don’t even think about it. It’s more than okay to have a cash bar but don’t you dare hand out tickets, even if in some way you’ve tied it into your theme. Change your theme.

Turn your cell phone off – Sorry to have to say this, but you just aren’t that important and if you are, then turn it to vibrate.

Send thank you notes – A two hundred dollar crystal bowl deserves a thank you note. Believe me when I say that the person who doesn’t get a thank you note won’t easily forget it.

Ornamental Vellum Thank You Notes Elegant. Contemporary. Perfectly stated. Send your heartfelt thanks to wedding guests, those who sent gifts, your bridal party, and everyone else who helped make your wedding the perfect celebration.

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