How to Survive Being Engaged – Delegating and Hiring a Planner

It may seem that wedding planning begins and takes a huge amount of a couples free time as soon as the question is asked and the bride to be says yes.  All of this wedding planning and preparation can be overwhelming for even the most balanced couple.  Here are some tips for keeping sanity during this hectic and often lengthy process and remembering why you want to get married in the first place.


One person cannot possibly do everything it takes to plan a wedding.  This is why vendors are hired and lucky brides and grooms get offers from family and friends to help.  The same goes with making choices surrounding the wedding.

The first thing the bride and groom should do is sit and make a list of priorities and then compare notes.  The groom’s top priority may be the ceremony venue and an awesome DJ.  The bride may be focused on an outdoor reception and breathtaking floral arrangements.  Together the couple should rank their priorities.  More money from the budget can be allotted to things that are higher on the list of priorities.  Many couples will have one person who keeps offering their help.  Resist the urge to overburden that person.  When asking a friend or family member for help in wedding planning, couples should focus on the quality of the help not the amount of tasks someone can do.  Couples will want their help truly focused on one or two tasks to ensure that they are completed correctly and in a timely manner.  Brides shouldn’t expect grooms to get involved in the details that really do not interest them.  The groom will have priorities regarding the wedding as will the bride and responsibilities should be delegated accordingly.

Hire a Planner If You Can

A wedding planner can be a valuable resource.  The money you often save on vendors by hiring a wedding planner can oftentimes nearly offset the cost of the planner’s fees.  If having a planner with you every step of the way seems a needless expense, a day-of coordinator may be the answer.  Day-of coordinators will often meet with you once as an initial consultation and then again two weeks before the wedding.  Day-of coordinators help keep people where they need to be and deal with any wrinkles that may arise so the bride and groom can relax and enjoy the preparation and festivities.  Ask any recently married couple who didn’t have a wedding planner and they can describe all of the things that come up throughout the day that they wish they hadn’t had to handle.

For more tips on surviving your engagement, read:

Making Decisions & Doing Your Research

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