Destination Wedding Questions Answered – Continued

What if someone in my wedding party misses their flight?  Do we wait for them?

Unless it is the bride or groom who is missing the general rule is not to hold up the event.  It is best to have everyone arrive at least a day or two before the ceremony but these things happen.  You can get everyone together again for pictures after the fact.  It is best to go on without the person and not have anyone else take their place.  No one wants to be your last resort.  If the parents of the bride or groom are missing it is really up to your discretion.  If they are shouldering a lot of the financial burden you may consider waiting but aren’t expected to do so.  Your best bet is to get in touch with them and have a candid discussion on what you plan to do.  Ultimately even in this case the decision is yours.

What if people show up with uninvited plus ones?

Now is the time to play a gracious hostess (host).  Ask the caterer to set an extra place setting and smile and say to greet the unexpected guest warmly.  As in most situations, when it comes to the actual event it is your responsibility to keep your guests comfortable, even the uninvited ones!

We want alone time after the wedding.  Are we obligated to spend time with our guests who stay at the destination after the reception?

You are only obligated to attend the events you invited everyone to attend.  That said you don’t want to be antisocial either.  It is like getting double the vacation.  Unless the guests plan to stay at the destination for the same length of time as the couple, there will probably be plenty of alone time once everyone has gone home. Another idea is to plan the honeymoon in a different location from the wedding, maybe a different island or a nearby location.  This will make sure the couple doesn’t feel required to entertain guests after the actual events.

How do I announce that I am having a reception for those who couldn’t make it when we return home?

If you are inviting everyone to the wedding that you are inviting to the reception later, you can go ahead and include an announcement in the wedding invitation.  This way guests who really can’t make it to the destination don’t feel any extra pressure.  If your guest list to the wedding is smaller; however, you will want to keep separate lists and send separate invites.  It is good to let everyone know you are keeping the wedding to a small affair to keep it manageable, but want to include everyone in some way.

Who is responsible if one of our guests damages property at our destination wedding?

Hopefully if one of your guests did any damage they fessed up and offered to pay for it.  In most cases you had to pay a damage deposit when you booked the event and will probably lose it.  If your guest didn’t come forward you can approach them and explain the situation and ask them what they think should be done, effectively putting the ball in their court. Ultimately, if they don’t offer to pay it is the responsibility of whoever signed the contract.  Consider wedding insurance which can cover such events as well as changes due to the weather or damage to the gown or tux rentals.

We really don’t want children at our destination wedding.  How do we make sure guests don’t bring them?

It is best to be open and direct ahead of time.  Do not include the names of children or “and family” on the invites.  Express your sincere wishes that they can make accommodations for their children so they can attend the event.  Maybe even joke about how it should be a much needed break.  It is also a good idea to make it clear there will be no hurt feelings if they cannot attend.  Parents aren’t always comfortable with finding extended care for their children.

Above all else your destination wedding should be a vacation for both you and your guests.  So just be sure everyone enjoys it as such!

If you missed Part 1 of this blog, look back to our Monday entry.

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