Q: We have several unmarried women on our wedding guest list. Some are single, some are divorced, and some of the divorced women use their married names while others have gone back to their maiden names! What is the most appropriate way to address their invitations?
A: Few things in life are as mind-boggling as the wedding guest list! And you’ve just listed 3 potentially sticky etiquette situations that have mired many a bride in the proverbial muck. We’ve outlined the traditional etiquette guidelines for you below, but remember it’s always best to defer to the golden rule in social situations: do whatever will make your guests most comfortable. If you know your friend Suzy prefers â€œMs.â€ over â€œMiss,â€ by all means indulge her preference!
Wedding Invitation Addressing Guidelines for Single / Unmarried Women
Unmarried woman: You can choose to use either â€œMissâ€ or â€œMs.â€ here, though as a general guideline we like to reserve â€œMissâ€ for women under the age of 30.
Miss Eleanor Jane Boushie
Ms. Georgia Ann Ledbetter
Divorced woman, uses her married name: Even though she is divorced, since she’s using her married name she’s technically considered â€œMrs.â€ to indicate that name’s status.
Mrs. Donna Belue Archer
Divorced woman, uses her maiden name: Etiquette allows for a choice between â€œMissâ€ or â€œMs.â€ but we prefer the use of â€œMs.â€ in this instance, unless the woman is quite young.
Ms. Janice Fresnotti
Miss Carolyn Thrasher