The groomsman is someone who is important to the groom and whom the groom wants to be a visible part of his wedding. A groomsman can be a close friend, brother, cousin, a relative of the bride or even the groom’s father. There is a considerable expense involved in being a groomsman, including the cost of formalwear, travel and hotel room (if you live out of town), the bachelor party, as well as gifts. A groomsman should have these expenses in mind when he accepts this honor from the groom. Even though the groomsman plays a smaller role than the best man, he also has important duties to fulfill.
Before the Wedding:
- Help to advise the groom, keep him organized and aid with any wedding planning.
- Assists in picking out formalwear, attend any fittings, and pay for formalwear
- Help plan and pay for the bachelor party
- Attend any pre-wedding parties (engagement party, co-ed showers, etc.)
- Attend wedding rehearsal and dinner
The Wedding Day:
- Help the groom relax and get dressed
- Seat guests in reserved or special sections as instructed in the rehearsal.
- The head groomsman is responsible for escorting the mother of the bride to her seat, unless one of her relatives is among the ushers.
- Instruct guests where to place wedding gifts brought to the ceremony
- Wait with the groom at the alter
- Escort the bridesmaids after the recessional
- Stand in the receiving line
- Dance with the bridesmaids during the bridal party dance.
- Help the best man decorate the bride and groom’s going away vehicle
- Help carry away gifts and personal items after the wedding
Just like the best man, your most important job will be to provide moral support and be a good listener. Keep in mind that planning a wedding is very stressful and you want to keep the groom calm and in a positive mood. It is a job to be taken seriously and will require a lot of work on your part.