Quite often, the attendants of the bride and groom meet for the first time at the rehearsal. In order to solve this, you may want to consider hosting a casual get together where everyone can be introduced to each other.
Schedule this event when most of your wedding party is available. A time in the evening would be ideal for serving desserts and coffee. Or, perhaps a Saturday or Sunday afternoon barbeque would be better.
Encourage your guests to bring old photographs they may have to the bride or groom. The parents will want to show old baby pictures, childhood friends may have pictures of past birthday parties or school events and siblings and other relatives will surely have some great memories to share as well. Be prepared for old stories to be told and plenty of laughter about old hair styles and fashion choices.
Another casual atmosphere would be to host this gathering at a local pizzeria. Inquire if there is a banquet or party room available that you can reserve ahead of time. If you are ordering several pizzas, do not be afraid to ask if there are any discounts.
The guest list should include the parents of the bride and groom, all of your attendants plus one guest each, the flower girl and ring bearer and their parents.
Keep it simple but fun. This type of casual setting will encourage good conversation and prevent “strangers” from your wedding.