Choosing a theme for your wedding will be one of the most important decisions to be made. It will influence the type of wedding gown you purchase, the style of invitations you order, the decorations for your reception and the food you serve at the reception. Here are some tips for choosing a theme for your wedding:
- Choose a theme that you think will be fun or romantic.
- Know your theme and do your research. If you are choosing a certain era, visit the library or search the internet for pictures of costumes and decorations. If you like something, take the book or print out the picture for when you consult with your vendors. If you are unsure about your theme, do not be afraid to ask them for their ideas. Themed weddings are growing in popularity and the vendors are accustomed to planning themed weddings.
- Do not go overboard with the decorations. You do not want to take away from the true meaning of your special day by overloading everyone’s senses with your decorations. Accent the church and/or reception area with just enough decorations so your guests get a feel for the theme.
- If you want your guests to wear themed clothing or costumes, include a card with your invitations letting them know. The card you include can be the same cardstock as your reception/respond card. Include a phone number in case your guests have questions. It could be the number for your maid/maton of honor, mother of the bride or the wedding coordinator; it does not have to be your number. Keep in mind that not everyone you invite will be able to wear the clothing or costumes you want, so let them know that the specific attire is encouraged but not required.
- Discuss you theme with your ceremony officiant to make sure your ideas are acceptable; some religions or venues may find your theme unacceptable.
- Choose a theme that is appropriate with the season. If you are having a February wedding in Minnesota, you cannot expect your guests to arrive in shorts and flip flops for your beach themed wedding.
- Make sure everyone in your wedding party is comfortable with the period specific attire that you have chosen. The last thing you want to do is to embarrass anyone in your wedding party.
- If your are having a difficult time planning your theme, think about hiring a wedding coordinator. A good coordinator will know how to plan your dream wedding.
- Because a themed wedding is less formal, you do not need to worry about some of the etiquette. In fact, many rules can be completely disregarded. So have fun with your invitation wording, wedding vows, wedding music, etc.
The most important thing to remember is to have FUN with your theme. Do not get so bogged down with all the details that you begin to regret your decision to have a themed wedding. You want your wedding day to be one of the happiest days of your life and a great memory for yourself and your guests.