Everyday Etiquette – Rehearsal Dinner Confusion


I’m confused as to who all gets invited to the rehearsal dinner. I was planning on just having those involved in the wedding and their spouses but now I’ve been told that I should invite any out of town guests as well. Please help!


The Everyday Etiquette Answer:

The rehearsal dinner guest list can vary. Some rehearsal dinners are like junior weddings. Things can really get out of hand. Traditional etiquette says the guest list should include the wedding party and their spouses / partners and the close family of both the bride and groom. If you have enough room, it is nice to include the officiant (clergy) and his or her spouse. You are not required to invite all the out of town guests. However, this is a nice thing to do.

Traditionally, this is the groom’s parents party, so they can call the shots. However, I recommend keeping the bride and her mother in the loop. There is one cardinal rule when planning the party … it should never be grander than the wedding and should have a totally different feel than the reception the next day.

More important than anything, enjoy the wedding experience. It is unbelievable and just flies by.

Ms. Carey

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